Lemme start by defining the word "Flirting". Flirting is defined in dictionaries as "Behaving or acting amorously without emotional commitment." wait dont jump to conclusions yet, that"s just one
definition but, like me, you probably realise that there are also many other definitions of flirting. I have chosen a very generic definition of flirting on which to base my viewpoint. This is because I feel it is important for people to realise that flirting can be a natural way of communicating with anyone as well as a way of communicating either amorous or sexual interest or both!

The word "flirting" has its roots in the old French word "fleurter" meaning "to flower" I like that. But this is how i define Flirting. To flirt is to shine your inner light thru your words and actions in a way that people are irresistibly drawn to you.

Flirting is a natural gift that we have had from birth. Babies flirt wildly with everyone that comes their way. Unfortunately many adults seem to have lost this wonderful ability(most of my friends have). Somewhere along the line we were [wrongly in my opinion] told that it was bad to draw attention to ourselves that little children should be seen and not heard. Some people have grown into adults that are neither seen nor heard. But fear not my friends there is hope you can learn to flirt again.

Flirting is a signaling mechanism that was bestowed upon us by nature. It is a communication tool. The secret is knowing the patterns of others and being aware of our patterns. For example it is useful to know what reaction certain behaviours you do create in others.The reaction might be verydifferent to the reaction you are intending to create. We are all gifted with the ability to signal. Many of us need to learn to read how our signals affect others and what signals we can send out to convey
certain messages. This goes hand in hand with the ability to decipher other people"s signals.

Flirting is our natural way of expressing interest in people. A smile bestowed here, a shared giggle or a word exchanged in the supermarket line can be a powerful thing. Flirting can be a prelude to friendship or a prelude to dating. Once you know how to do it you can choose how to use it. Great flirts do it with everyone, babies, men, women dogs and cats. People who flirt well get what they want in life PERIOD why do i say that? because they know how to create good feelings in other
people.
I am a natural flirt – I love communicating and I find myself initiating conversation with strangers wherever I go.When I go outside in the world I get an overwhelming sense of possibility and anticipation. I know that I have the opportunity to connect with someone new each day. When I encounter someone who looks good I often turn round and say ‘great dress’ or "nice shoes" as I pass by.. Sometimes I place my hand on someone’s shoulder or tap them on the arm and say ‘I just wanted to say – you have lovely hair’. I have NEVER had a rebuff. Quite the contrary. The warm smile that comes over the faces of people I encounter gives me a real buzz. And it costs absolutely nothing.
One word of warning. Dont get carried away, It’s no use telling a grossly overweight person what a
lovely trim figure they have! People can spot insincerity a mile away. I always make sure to compliment only those attributes or adornments that I really do like. I just enjoy smiling and saying "hi" or "good morning" to EVERYONE I meet. I know that someone will take that smile and pass it on to someone else... who knows what positive knock-on consequences it might have.

Life goes at a fast pace and many of us are rushing around with our heads full of what we have to do, what we haven"t done, what"s bothering us, what we want to happen. It"s too easy to get caught up in our own inner world. Every so often it"s important to come outside, pay attention to what"s going on in the world and acknowledge that we all share the same planet and a kind word or a genuine smile goes a long way to maintaining our membership of the human race as opposed to becoming merely a human racing!
There are many different types of flirting. For example, you can flirt sexually or non-sexually. The key is to know what you want to achieve and what are the right signals for your purpose. For example to become a friend I sent out the signals that say, I like you, I want to enjoy your company, but I’m not
available. When you are flirting for fun and not to attract a partner, it is very important to differentiate.

When I was fourteen, I was an indiscriminate, unsophisticated and wanton flirt. If a gal looked at me, I looked back at her and played it for all it was worth, pouting, smiling and generally beckoning. I got myself in a tough situation once when i was flirting with my neighbour without realising that she was falling for me (from my part i thought it was just harmless fun) when she told me that she loves me i had a rude awakening and realised what mistake i made. Believe me you dont wanna do that mistake ever.
Looking back I realised that I was too young to realise what effect my flirting was having on a young gal. The fact is that she understood when I told her how i felt about her but others may not be so understanding. My wild and highly sexual flirting could have harmed people who i really have no intention of harming. There are times when we see someone, we want them and we flirt as a sexual come-on and that"s ok, when you know what you want and go for it. But when we do not have that intention in mind we need to flirt accordingly. If you don"t differentiate you could find yourself in a sticky situation. Of course, wild sexual flirting can be a marvellous bonus in a relationship.

Believe me when i say this, The ability to flirt well comes from an inner belief in one’s own self worth. Some of the best flirts are not your ‘chocolate-box’ beauties or your ‘Handsome" hunks. . They are people who feel confident that they have something to offer the world and enjoy creating good feelings in other people. They are the clever ones because they know that when you make other people feel good, it bounces right back onto you!

What is the point in being a selfish, lonely person when you can send out your light into the world and be one of those people that everyone wants to be with. In conclusion i wanna say..When you learn to flirt successfully and accurately, you can change the world you live in and reap for yourself an endless supply of smiles, happiness, laughter, fun and love. So meet the world head on my friends and spread the love :)